In my first article, Why an island? Why Mallorca?, I described my love for my island. I mentioned that, not only did I fall in love with Mallorca, but ´more...´ Well, this ´more´I am marrying this year, on the 1st of August this very summer. Rafael (Litos) Vaquer Mayol. He deserves a mention, of course. A very special mention, for a very special person. Well, at least that´s what he is in my eyes. I wouldn´t be committing myself to him and only him if I thought otherwise. Committing myself to him. To someone. To vow to spend the rest of my life by the side of only one person. Til death do us part. For better or for worse. A scary thought? The truth, for me, not one single bit. And that is how I know he is the one. 
Allright, I´m not going to get all emotionally deep here. But I am experiencing one of the happiest times in my life as I wait impatiently for my big day. And I want to express that they´d be no way I´d ever dream of taking the huge step that marriage is if I wasn´t 100% sure that there is no one else on this earth I´d rather be with. Ok, so the earth is a gigantic planet and I haven t met even a quarter of the people on it. How do I know that I´m not destined to be with someone else? Well, because I believe in fate, and that very same fateful force that brought me to Mallorca in the fisrt place, also drove me to my first and only love. We´re meant to be together, forever, and I truly believe that.
Allright, I´m not going to get all emotionally deep here. But I am experiencing one of the happiest times in my life as I wait impatiently for my big day. And I want to express that they´d be no way I´d ever dream of taking the huge step that marriage is if I wasn´t 100% sure that there is no one else on this earth I´d rather be with. Ok, so the earth is a gigantic planet and I haven t met even a quarter of the people on it. How do I know that I´m not destined to be with someone else? Well, because I believe in fate, and that very same fateful force that brought me to Mallorca in the fisrt place, also drove me to my first and only love. We´re meant to be together, forever, and I truly believe that.
Anyway, let´s get back to my wedding. Yes, it´s true, the word "stress" has passed my lips more than once as I organise and plan and schedule the whole ´shebang´. As everyone who has got married or has been involved in a wedding knows, there are literally tonnes and tonnes of things to do and remember to do.
My advice is just to be incredibly organised right from the very start. I´ve discovered that the best way to do it is to first make a list of everything that needs to be booked, organised, bought, hired, etc. It will be a huge list and there will, no doubt, be things you´ve forgotten to put on your list. But don´t worry, these will probably be minor things that can be added as you remember.
When you have your list, you then need to catergorise it into order of importance. In other words, all the things that need to be done first, or asap, depending on how far in advance you start planning. This will include things like ´book venue/church/priest or officiant/music, start looking for dress´. These are the things that need to be booked well in advance due to high demand, especially if you´re looking at a popular church or venue. Ths reservation is best done the sooner the better in my opinion. I booked my venue 14 months in advance to be sure I got that date that we wanted.
The best way to categorise your to-do list is into things to do: asap; 6 months before; 5 months before; 4 months before; 3 months before; 2 months before and last but not least, the big month. Literally go through it month by month. It will take off so much pressure, as one month they´ll only be one thing you´ll have to do, and the next month another....
You´ll know, of course, what it is that needs doing, and you´ll always be receiving help from different people, whether it´s from fellow brides, women who´ve been there, assistants from places you visit, and wedding planners and event organisers are numerous.
We decided eventually to have the whole event at one single venue. At an idyllic, elegant and impressive hotel, which overlooks the magnificent, turquoise blue, mediterranean sea that will be glistening in the hot, summer sun. The thought of it sends shudders of excitement through my body and a huge smile can´t help but light up my face. Excited is actually an understatement.
The hotel is also idyllic in the sense that its wonderful staff have taken so much pressure off what could have been a stressful and exhausting organisation of the whole event. The wonderful event coordinators from the hotel have been incredibly efficient, helpful and extremely kind right from the very start, and if we were to have wanted, they could have organised the whole wedding for us.
My advice is just to be incredibly organised right from the very start. I´ve discovered that the best way to do it is to first make a list of everything that needs to be booked, organised, bought, hired, etc. It will be a huge list and there will, no doubt, be things you´ve forgotten to put on your list. But don´t worry, these will probably be minor things that can be added as you remember.
When you have your list, you then need to catergorise it into order of importance. In other words, all the things that need to be done first, or asap, depending on how far in advance you start planning. This will include things like ´book venue/church/priest or officiant/music, start looking for dress´. These are the things that need to be booked well in advance due to high demand, especially if you´re looking at a popular church or venue. Ths reservation is best done the sooner the better in my opinion. I booked my venue 14 months in advance to be sure I got that date that we wanted.
The best way to categorise your to-do list is into things to do: asap; 6 months before; 5 months before; 4 months before; 3 months before; 2 months before and last but not least, the big month. Literally go through it month by month. It will take off so much pressure, as one month they´ll only be one thing you´ll have to do, and the next month another....
You´ll know, of course, what it is that needs doing, and you´ll always be receiving help from different people, whether it´s from fellow brides, women who´ve been there, assistants from places you visit, and wedding planners and event organisers are numerous.
We decided eventually to have the whole event at one single venue. At an idyllic, elegant and impressive hotel, which overlooks the magnificent, turquoise blue, mediterranean sea that will be glistening in the hot, summer sun. The thought of it sends shudders of excitement through my body and a huge smile can´t help but light up my face. Excited is actually an understatement.
The hotel is also idyllic in the sense that its wonderful staff have taken so much pressure off what could have been a stressful and exhausting organisation of the whole event. The wonderful event coordinators from the hotel have been incredibly efficient, helpful and extremely kind right from the very start, and if we were to have wanted, they could have organised the whole wedding for us.
This brings me to my next point. Thinking back, I don´t know if I would have wanted a wedding planner or to put what will be the most special day of my life into the hands of someone else. Of course, they undoubtedly make the job a whole lot easier for you and if you have a hectic schedule or are unsure of where to even start, they are at your every need.
But personally for me, planning my wedding is part of the fun. Visiting venues, researching florists, hunting down suitable musicians... Little by little you´re building up to the excitement of the big day and it will bring tears to your eyes as you imagine how it will all turn out. You´re doing it all by yourself and you can look around on that special day and say to yourself, "I´ve done this; I´ve made this wedding happen; It´s all down to me." But with all the other emotion and happiness that your heart will be filled with, do you really think you´ll really have time to stop and think? Unlikely. But do it. I will be and I can´t wait for it. I´ve never wanted anything so badly in my life.
But personally for me, planning my wedding is part of the fun. Visiting venues, researching florists, hunting down suitable musicians... Little by little you´re building up to the excitement of the big day and it will bring tears to your eyes as you imagine how it will all turn out. You´re doing it all by yourself and you can look around on that special day and say to yourself, "I´ve done this; I´ve made this wedding happen; It´s all down to me." But with all the other emotion and happiness that your heart will be filled with, do you really think you´ll really have time to stop and think? Unlikely. But do it. I will be and I can´t wait for it. I´ve never wanted anything so badly in my life.
I can´t express the importance of time. You´ll need a lot of it, unless you don´t mind being rushed off your feet just weeks before. The invitations, the dress, the presents, the flowers.......
You´ll see as you make your list. Be prepared. Be organised. Be happy. Put all your heart, soul and happiness into it. It´s been nothing but excitement since the day we set the date and we´ve still got 185 days to go! And who said weddings were stressful? One word of advice - ENJOY!
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